I moved to a new State in late November 2021 and faced all the challenges, stresses, and frustrations one would expect with a move. I’ve done it before so I felt like I at least had some experience on my side. Even with all the added anxiety, lack of proper sleep, and complications, everything came together well. The pieces of this move fell into place better than the last two moves.
Nothing causes me more anxiety in these situations more than trying to line up new doctors for the continuation of care. Even though I am on a Medicare Advantage Plan, insurance may change and there is little to go on except ratings and reviews. Mental health providers are scarce and even harder to find when you factor in the acceptance of your insurance, whether or not they are taking new patients, and if you feel comfortable and can establish a connection.
I thought finding providers would be somewhat easier in what was to become my new home since it is a university city with an affiliated hospital and in a decently populated area. It is a small city of about 47,00 people in a county of about 100,000. The perfect size for me insofar as not exacerbating my panic and anxiety disorders the way a large metropolitan area does. Large metro areas are simply overwhelming for me.
I was wrong about my assumption of ample providers in the area. I made so many calls and left so many messages I became very disorganized. Not only disorganized but confused too. It was very challenging to keep things in order when your illnesses contribute to memory issues. I kept a list but it wasn’t detailed enough and many times I had no recollection of why someone was on the list or if any conversation had taken place. I was on many waiting lists and cutting it close with the most important of my doctors, a psychologist. I was getting callbacks while driving. I made appointments I didn’t recall making. Luckily, I put them into my phone and could follow up once I arrived in my new hometown.
I had two appointments with therapists in the first couple of weeks and neither was a good fit for me. The third one was the charm and happened to be affiliated with the university health system, which is where I established primary care. We are still in the “getting to know” you stage but I feel confident in their abilities, am comfortable talking, and feel like we will be able to forge a good relationship.
Unfortunately, the Omicron variant has been spreading rapidly and it is limiting my ability to go out and become familiar with my new area. A new area means a whole new set of anxieties and I have to start anew with exposure therapies with stores, doctors’ offices, and of the area in general. I feel behind the curve on this due to the new Covid strain. (I’ve felt behind for the last two years.) I have a lot of anxieties about becoming ill so I am very conservative about going out among people, something I already struggle with. Covid-19 has been extremely challenging for me as I tend to revert to more agoraphobic behaviors. But it is beyond my control, all I can do is the best I can with the situation at hand. I have to keep reminding myself of that and, as my therapist says, count each success no matter how small.
I’ll be talking more about Covid and anxiety in future. Stay safe!